"I feel like fear and laziness are the components of the human nature that really holds us back. But once you get them under control there really is no stopping you and what you want to accomplish"
ATLien Sean Fahie has composed a book of short stories about women. Is it cliche? Anything but actually. These accounts remind me of a few of my own very serious run-in's, and mishaps with a couple good laughs along the way. I recently got to interview him about the book, and break down a couple of points that I wanted the inside scoop on. Hit the jump to read more.
Why did you decide to write a book about your encounters with women, and other life stories...especially
Well I think that’s exactly why I wrote the book. Those other authors showed me that it could be done. Not that I could do it any better, but I understand that I have my perspective of the world and why not share it with others? I was blessed with the opportunity to have a publishing deal before the book was completed. I realized, what better to write about then these silly adventures I kept finding myself in. So I just went with it and hoped for the best.
In your "Short Poem For A Happy Day" you said you've had it all and still wanted more...what 'more' did you crave?
In reference to the poem. I was talking about women, and how at the time I can really never be satisfied by just one, because there is always another one around the corner. And when our time is up, that’s all we have left. Just that time, just those memories and even those memories won’t last forever. I've been blessed to chill with some amazing women and I keep meeting some really dope wonderful women. In reference to life, I crave life and a lot of what it has to offer. I find myself in these greedy little moments where I am completely satisfied, but I know there is more and I’m just searching for more. It’s a good thing, bad thing. It keeps me, artistically, searching and growing and attempting to better my craft and myself as a person. As Andre 3000 once said, “You’re only as funky as your last cut.” It’s a bad thing because sometimes I forget to enjoy what I have and what I have accomplished, sometimes I forget that I've accomplished more in my 29 years of living then a lot have done with a full life time. Sometimes I have to stop and smell the roses.
In your 'Short Poem about How Men Really Feel" you explained that most men are 'lonely bastards waiting for the next time [you] can fall in love again..." Being a woman, I have to ask if this is really true. Did you think making that statement would put you under scrutiny from other men? It's almost as if you let the secret out.(Laughs) I think I did put that out there. I don’t know, most of the men that have read that poem usually respond in laughter because for a large part of that poem it’s true. Everybody wants to be loved by somebody and when you’re not being loved by somebody, you (men and women) are out
looking for love and even if not love, then you’re out looking for a warm body. Even if it’s for the night. And if you've had a long evening of boozing and let downs…well there’s always the internet.
What was the hardest part in getting your book out to the public? Were there a lot of setbacks with publishers and editing?
The hardest part I think was the editing process, I had it edited twice and I’m still finding mistakes (probably because I was lazy and didn't go back as thoroughly as I should have once I got the book back from editing). I’m very once I’m done with something I’m done with it and then I move on. Not a great way to be at times, but I think I’m ADHD and I have to keep my mind stimulated or I get distracted easily. But, once the book was done the publisher was ready to move on it so that wasn't an issue.
Is there a sequel coming? Please say yes (laughs).
There is definitely a sequel. It’s titled Letters to Lovers who Love to Hate Me. The second book is the conclusion to the first. I’m looking at things through a more mature eye, questioning aspects of my life and why certain things are. Pretty much the same format though. Some adventures, some short stories, some jokes. I have a short poem in there about how I keep fucking up threesome opportunities. But it’s more a book about what happens when the party is done and you have to go home and face yourself. The quiet times in your room when you try to avoid some of those questions that ramble along in your head.
By far the funniest situation I read about in your book was the situation with the girl from The Local bar with your friend Diamonds. Since the book has been published have you ran into that girl at all?
(Laughs) Nah I haven’t seen that chick since. And I’m ok with that.
With all the lessons you talked about in the book, whats the most effective you've applied to your life?
The most effective for me is the idea of not giving up. Facing and overcoming my fears, destroying my laziness, and to better understand my ego so it doesn't get the best of me. I feel like fear and laziness are the components of the human nature that really holds us back. But once you get them under control there really is no stopping you and what you want to accomplish.
What would you say is the ultimate thing about women you forget?
The ultimate thing about women I seem to forget is how easily I can allow, and willingly let a woman hurt me. I’m a trusting and loving individual, so I find myself at times forgetting that I can be hurt. But on the same token it’s an amazing thing when a woman feels that kind of energy from you and how open and receptive they become. The more comfortable a woman is around you the easier it is for her to become an open conduit for receiving your energy. At least that’s what my experiences have taught me thus far.
Any last words for the readers?
I would like to say thanks for the opportunity and I appreciate it. Please be sure to get yourself a copy of the book if you haven’t already at www.seanfahiebook.com. I would like the readers to know that I am also a freelance graphic designer/illustrator and you can find my work at www.behance.net/seanfahie (serious inquiries please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. And I also curate and involve myself in a lot of art shows around the city. I have a solo show coming up entitled Last Year’s Most Interesting Negro at Melvin Gallery on the beltline slated for March 14th (that date may or may not change), What else, oh I used to rap a lot and you can find my music at www.speakeasy1.bandcamp.com. Ok thanks, and be on the look out for the second book.
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